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It’s been a while since I’ve written here. There’s a reason for that and I wanted to write this post today so I can let you in on what’s been going on behind the scenes.
There comes a point in one’s life where spending quiet time with oneself is imperative to the growth and integration of mind, body, and spirit.
This is why I’ve been so quiet lately.
Saying that this year has been one of the most challenging times in my life is an understatement. I’d like to think that I’m very self-reflective. I spend a lot of time thinking about how I can be a better person and have better relationships, with myself and with others around me. I’ve always thought that I did a pretty good job of that. And while for the most part I am, it wasn’t until I got divorced, moved out on my own and cut myself off financially from my parents and ex-husband that I was left with….my Self.
In case you missed it, here are my 7 tips to having more energy this spring!!! Had a blast on Good Day Dallas!!! Click the image below to watch or click here.
To recap, here are my tips below:
1. Get rid of clothes that don’t fit with who you are anymore.
This isn’t just about cleaning gout your closet, this is also good for your self-esteem. Swearing to yourself that you will one day wear those skinny jeans is only taking up physical and mental space and inevitably make you feel bad about yourself. Giving away old clothes that are too small is a great way to declare that you love and accept yourself as you are right now.
1b. Bless and release old grudges and resentments.
Think about how someone who may have brought pain into your life has taught you a valuable lesson. Thank them, send them love and gratitude, and release them from your life. This will help cut the negative cord that has been holding you onto them. As far as intimate and professional relationships, start identifying what you need to be happy in relationships.
2. Say “NO” more to obligations.
Instead of saying YES immediately, give yourself the time to think about it. The only person putting pressure on you is yourself. You get to decide how much of your time and energy you want to give. Allow yourself the 24-hour rule. Give yourself 24 hours to commit to anything.
3. Get to bed earlier and wake up earlier
The later you sleep the more tired you will will waking up in the morning. Create a night time ritual where you soothe yourself and allow yourself to sleep peacefully. Set your alarm to wake up to peaceful music. Most Americans are exhausted and tired in the morning and then try to wake themselves up by pumping themselves with caffeine. Instead, sleep enough so you don’t have t overcompensate by drinking highly caffeinated drinks.
4. Move your body
Start slowly. If you haven’t been to the gym or exercised in a while, start off by taking a 15-minute walk, seven days a week. The key is consistency. Keep your workout clothes by your bed or stop at your local park for a walk. Also when going to a store park as far away as you can so you are forced to walk those few extra steps. Anything helps.
5. Have an afternoon power snack
Low energy levels can also be a result of dehydration and our blood sugar levels dropping. Keep energizing snacks on hand like a power bar, berries, hummus and crackers, something healthy that you can munch on to boost your sugar levels to its balanced state.
It’s common to fall off the wagon with your New Year Resolutions. Luckily, you don’t have to stay fallen off. There are five things you can do to get back on track.
I was recently on Good Day Austin and spoke about this.
Click below to watch.
Here’s a recap of the five things you can do to stay on track (if you’ve fallen off) with your resolutions:
1. Be realistic
Don’t get too extreme with your resolutions. For example, making a resolution to NEVER eat chocolate or drink wine is a surefire way to fail. Instead, set a goal that will set you up for success, such as limiting yourself to something 2 days a week.
2. Plan ahead
Most people who make their resolutions on New Year’s Day struggle with keeping up with what they’ve committed to. Whatever your resolution is be sure to plan ahead so you can get in a positive forward moving mindset.
3. Talk about it
Don’t keep your resolution a secret. People who have accountability are more likely to keep up with their resolutions. This is where a tight support network of family and friends who will hold you to your resolution will increase the likelihood of you following through on your word. Find someone who shares the same resolution as you for an even stronger support.
4. Celebrate yourself
This doesn’t mean that you can eat an entire box of donuts. Celebrating your success means treating yourself to something that doesn’t have you regress in regards to your resolution. For example, if you’ve been sticking to your resolution to go to yoga everyday, celebrate by getting yourself new yoga pants or a new yoga mat. Or if you’ve been eating clean and healthy, celebrate by getting yourself a new cookbook that supports your resolutions.
5. Keep at it
If you have fallen off the wagon or have given up by February, no sweat. Just start over. In life we are given multiple second chances. Just because you may have slipped doesn’t mean you don’t get to try again. Recommit to your resolution for at least one day. Those 24 hours will become 48 hours and so on and so forth. But the main intention is to forgive yourself, don’t beat yourself up, and try again.
Hope this helps.
Hope you had a love-filled weekend
This was my first Valentine’s Day being “single.” And even though I believe that every day should be filled with love, Valentine’s Day just happens to be one of those glorified Hallmark holidays that often drive women (and some men) crazy.
You know what I mean?
I spent my Valentine’s Day with my two girlfriends, Neha and Jen. That’s us below.
There’s something to be said about hanging out with friends, with no expectations of how things “should” be. Of course, a part of me got a little sad when I looked around the lounge that we were at and saw all these couple holding hands, and doing that cute nose-rubbing thing that couples do (I used to do that too).
And yes, I will admit, I had my “moment.” I was definitely “that girl” that was crying while my friend rubbed my back. Don’t you just love your girl (guy) friends?
This new season of my life has taught me so much about myself. I wanted to share two things that I have learned with you.
1. It’s imperative that we spend time with ourselves. This has probably been the most challenging lesson for me. For 10 years I was in a relationship. I had the comfort and security of knowing that no matter what, I had someone to lean on. Now being newly divorced and “single” I’m learning that being with myself, NOT having someone next to me at all times, can be lonely. Scratch that. Excruciatingly painful. I always thought I was the kind of person that didn’t mind being alone. Hell, I crave solitude. However, now that I am living alone, it’s a whole other set of circumstances that I am getting used to. I’m learning to be with the “aloneness” by spending time with my girlfriends, reading, catching up on movies, going for walks with my dog, cooking, and most importantly, just BEING with myself- no matter how lonely it feels. And oh by the way, it’s not easy.
2. We get to create. If you have been subscribed to my emails for some time now you know that this is one key message that I preach over and over again. Because it’s true. At any given moment, we get to create how we perceive things, our outlook on life, people, and places.. Being alone is teaching me more about my ability to create than ever before. See, when I was married, it was easy for me to expect my then husband to read my mind, or do things a certain way so as to “please” me, and vice versa. But that wasn’t a very realistic approach. In fact, it caused more harm than good. Any time we place our happiness and peace in the hands of another human being, we lose our power. Being alone is allowing me to really take charge of how I want everything in my life to look and feel AT ANY GIVEN MOMENT.
Something to think about:
How much time are you taking to just be with yourself?
Where are you giving away your power?
What can you do to be the decision maker of your life?
Take what you will from these lessons and leave the rest if it doesn’t apply to your life in this moment.
I hope these two nuggets will contribute to your life in some way.
Here for you,