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The Dark Side.
This at first glance, may seem like a Star Wars reference. If you haven’t seen Star Wars and don’t know what I’m talking about, then shame on you (kidding, I’ve never seen it myself).
We all have this side to ourselves. The part that we don’t normally want to look at. The part that we don’t tell people about. It’s not pretty I’ll give you that. It definitely should not be allowed to play and frolic on a regular basis.
It’s still you.
What if I told you that this also could be your greatest asset?
I know this does not sound very realistic, but really give it some thought. If and I mean IF you were truly able to accept this part of yourself along with all the wonderful, amazing, rainbow unicorn parts, there would be nothing left to judge.
You would no longer have those painful thoughts of you making those horrible decisions in college. Or that time you decided to steal something, lie, cheat, manipulate, or con somebody.
what happens when you read that word?
green paper. benjamins. moolah. bills. cash. bucks.
what happens inside of you?
here is the interesting thing about money.
If you find yourself wondering why there just doesn’t seem to be “enough” of it, take a look around you.
do you respect money?
like totally respect, honor, cherish the energy of money?
i used to have some S&M qualities.
may still actually.(Not in a whips and chains kind of way)
more in a self judgment, lack of compassion, and drive to succeed 24/7 kind of way.
let me tell ya right now. there is nothing pleasurable about running on 4 hours of sleep, drinking 5 cups of coffee and
basically feeling like my poor heart is going to jump out of my chest.
I have some good news though.
what i now know to be true is
if you just listen and do what feels good
life doesnt suck anymore.
so what feels good?
hitting the snooze button. 5 or 6 times.
hanging out in pajamas.until 9’oclock at night.
moving slowly throughout the day.
answering your emails/phone calls whenever you feel like it. (Sorry Tim Ferriss)
Saying, “I’m going to let you go now” to the person on the other end of the phone is draining you of your precious time and energy.
reading 4 books at a time. and possibly not finishing any of them this year.
doing the opposite of what your tight schedule says.
pursuing your wild and outrageous dreams. (ignore the naysayers)
making money. a lot of it.
stopping everything and rolling around in the grass. (I just did this yesterday..AH-MAZING)
sleeping in the middle of the afternoon.
saying YES! WEEEEEEEEEEEEEE
being super pumped and super psyched about your dreams, goals, and accomplishments.
do what makes you feel good and your life will be
Are there things in your life that you still haven’t done? Goals you haven’t quite reached? Dreams you haven’t made come true?
If you’re still reading, your answer is likely “yes.” So what’s holding you back and preventing you from taking that leap? What’s stopping you from taking the first step of that journey you’ve been meaning to begin for quite some time now?
It’s a small word with crippling effects.
Fear holds us hostage, preventing us from creating the lives we desire and yearn for. Fear tells us that we are inadequate—that we will never quite be enough. It is that voice that subconsciously follows us into every nook and cranny of our lives, whispering again and again that we are simply unworthy—unworthy of that big raise, undeserving of a healthy relationship, unfit for the compliment on our new outfit.
As a result of these feelings of inadequacy, we feel shameful. We live our lives in a cloak of darkness, hesitant of what stepping into the light might mean for us. As humans, we tend to react to these circumstances with one of three responses: addiction, denial, or depression. All three ills flood our lives with negativity, sending us into a downward spiral that plunges us even farther away from the lives we once envisioned for ourselves.
To free ourselves from the shackles of fear, we must accept love back into our lives. In order to do so, we need to acknowledge and believe that we are not meant to live in fear, but to live boldly. When we choose to live boldly, happiness ensues. Marianne Williamson put it best when she said:
“Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us. We ask ourselves, ‘Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, fabulous?’ Actually, who are you not to be?…As we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same. As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others.”
For added motivation, keep in mind that throwing your own inhibitions to the wind will encourage those around you to do the same. The process of unlearning fear, putting an end to our feelings of shame, and restoring our hearts with love is not an easy one, but it is worth every arduous step of the journey.