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I love to hear the inspiring powerful presence you have.  Keep up the amazing work, women need you!

~ Lisa Nichols

It was a breath of fresh air. I began to realize that the freedom I felt/experienced on the coaching call was something I was created to enjoy and able to have in my life on a daily basis.

~ Chantel C.

Vasavi has a compassionate and caring style of coaching with the perfect level of toughness that allowed me to push myself toward my intended outcomes.

~ Melissa R.

circa 2002

Dear Vasavi,

I know you think that you know everything. You don’t. In fact, you are about to make a whole lotta bad choices. I’m here to tell you that it’s ok. You will survive. In fact, you will thrive. You can’t stop me from sharing my lessons from the future with you. So open and read this letter when you are ready.

P.S. There is no such thing as being ready. So read it now.

1. go with your gut. always.

2. if it sounds like and feels like that guy just wants one thing from you..he probably does.

3. you aren’t “too much.” other people just don’t have the capacity to be with all of you. So don’t stop shining bright.

4. you can’t buy friends with money, or gifts, or favors, or saying YES all the time.

5. listen to your mother. you may think she is a pain in the neck, but she gets nothing out of seeing you suffer.

6. slow down. your time is coming.

7. sex isn’t a substitute for love.

8. drink more water. put down the vodka cranberry.

9. feel your feelings. self-medicating with drugs isn’t working for ya.

10. don’t treat your nearest and dearest like doormats.

11. what other people think of you isn’t your problem. so mind yo’ business.

12. yes, you are here to make a huge impact on the planet. start with making a difference with you.

13. you’re going to make a lot of mistakes. it will serve you in the long run.

14. the company you keep will make you or break you. stop chasing after the “cool” kids. YOU are awesome.

15. don’t pay attention to the bullies. They’ll get theirs.

16. life and the people around you are your greatest spiritual teachers. stop needing to be right all the time.

17. trust trust trust. God has always had your back.

18. have fun. worrying and suffering are optional.

19. number one spirit killer? not being true to you. take the mask off.

P.P.S. Yes, you are loveable and you do matter. Oh, and God will forgive you. Will you?

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Are there things in your life that you still haven’t done? Goals you haven’t quite reached? Dreams you haven’t made come true?

If you’re still reading, your answer is likely “yes.” So what’s holding you back and preventing you from taking that leap? What’s stopping you from taking the first step of that journey you’ve been meaning to begin for quite some time now?

Fear.

It’s a small word with crippling effects.

Fear holds us hostage, preventing us from creating the lives we desire and yearn for. Fear tells us that we are inadequate—that we will never quite be enough. It is that voice that subconsciously follows us into every nook and cranny of our lives, whispering again and again that we are simply unworthy—unworthy of that big raise, undeserving of a healthy relationship, unfit for the compliment on our new outfit.

As a result of these feelings of inadequacy, we feel shameful. We live our lives in a cloak of darkness, hesitant of what stepping into the light might mean for us. As humans, we tend to react to these circumstances with one of three responses: addiction, denial, or depression. All three ills flood our lives with negativity, sending us into a downward spiral that plunges us even farther away from the lives we once envisioned for ourselves.

To free ourselves from the shackles of fear, we must accept love back into our lives. In order to do so, we need to acknowledge and believe that we are not meant to live in fear, but to live boldly. When we choose to live boldly, happiness ensues.  Marianne Williamson put it best when she said:

Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us. We ask ourselves, ‘Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, fabulous?’ Actually, who are you not to be?…As we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same. As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others.

For added motivation, keep in mind that throwing your own inhibitions to the wind will encourage those around you to do the same. The process of unlearning fear, putting an end to our feelings of shame, and restoring our hearts with love is not an easy one, but it is worth every arduous step of the journey.

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