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Back to our current programming 🙂
Have you ever felt like when something happens in your life and it’s just “too much” to handle that everything around you seems to come to a massive halt?
I know the feeling. I made a joke the other day that I was a walking talking pain-body and I was surprised that I even managed to get through the past few weeks the way I did without completely losing it.
If there is one thing that I FOR SURE know, it is this. Pain and progress can coexist. Now I’m not saying that you should go ahead and bulldoze over your emotions or whatever is going on in your life.
I’m inviting you to consider that YOU are stronger than your pain. And no matter how hard or difficult of a situation you may be in, that you do have the capacity to handle it.
After all, our life didn’t just happen. Our thoughts created it. Our beliefs created it. Our actions created it. So if that is truly the case, we have the power to change it.
Part of how I deal with my pain is to keep progressing in my life no matter what. So ya’ll know how much I love spreading my message so I reached out to Val Santos, a radio personality over at The Beat ATX (102.3) and pitched her an idea to collaborate on.
I present: Vas + Val: The High Road.
If you’re prone to judging and making yourself and others wrong for their past, then I suggest you continue reading this:
9 years ago today. October 26, 2004.
I was using cocaine 3-4 days a week.
I was engaged in dead end relationships.
I had no purpose.
I hated myself.
9 years ago today.
I met Ashish. At the time my arrogance, which was nothing more than an overcompensation for my lack of worthiness and self respect, had me believing that he wasn’t good enough for me.
After all, I was the daughter of a cardiologist and CPA. (Note the false sense of pride).
And he, was simply a store owner running his father’s convenience store. (Note the cockiness).
Yet, with the prompting of my friend Kalyea, I marched into his store on October 26, 2004 and asked him out on a date. Actually it was more like:
“Hey you should take me out on a date sometime.”
But the truth was, I didn’t really believe that someone like ME could actually get a guy like him.
He was handsome. Kind. Friendly. Respectful.
And I was none of those things (in my mind).
To my surprise, Ashish said YES to taking me out on a date.
Many people don’t know this but the word Ashish translates to “blessing.”
And a blessing he was. And is.
Even though I didn’t think I was worthy of someone as awesome as Ashish, I still went after him. I wanted to believe that I was worthy of him and so much more.
So I did what I do best:
I faked it. To make it. Until I started to believe it.
It took a while for me to stand comfortably in the fact that this was real. That someone could love me for me.
Bipolar disorder, drug use, self-loathing and all.
But I allowed it in.
And from that day forward, I set in motion a path that I’ve crawled on, resisted, fought, and eventually surrendered to.
The path of worthiness.
And still continue on that path.
The lesson here isn’t to necessarily ask a guy or gal on a date (unless you want to).
The lesson here is to allow love in.
Even if you don’t believe you deserve it. Allow it in. Be with it. Get uncomfortable with it. Because eventually, love wins.
And love is everywhere. And you deserve it.
what you have been looking for is you.
you are the happiness that you have been wanting to feel.
you are the forgiveness that you have been waiting for.
you are the love that you seem to think is out “there.”
you are the creativity that somehow got lost in 4th grade.
you are the magic that has you running tricks on yourself.
you are the approval that you yearn for from your parents, your spouse, your colleagues, your clients, your friends, anyone and everyone that will give you a compliment.
you are the peace that drives you to control and manage everything and everyone around you.
you are the answer to the never-ending question.
you are the gift that you have been searching for.
it’s all you my friend.
Are there things in your life that you still haven’t done? Goals you haven’t quite reached? Dreams you haven’t made come true?
If you’re still reading, your answer is likely “yes.” So what’s holding you back and preventing you from taking that leap? What’s stopping you from taking the first step of that journey you’ve been meaning to begin for quite some time now?
It’s a small word with crippling effects.
Fear holds us hostage, preventing us from creating the lives we desire and yearn for. Fear tells us that we are inadequate—that we will never quite be enough. It is that voice that subconsciously follows us into every nook and cranny of our lives, whispering again and again that we are simply unworthy—unworthy of that big raise, undeserving of a healthy relationship, unfit for the compliment on our new outfit.
As a result of these feelings of inadequacy, we feel shameful. We live our lives in a cloak of darkness, hesitant of what stepping into the light might mean for us. As humans, we tend to react to these circumstances with one of three responses: addiction, denial, or depression. All three ills flood our lives with negativity, sending us into a downward spiral that plunges us even farther away from the lives we once envisioned for ourselves.
To free ourselves from the shackles of fear, we must accept love back into our lives. In order to do so, we need to acknowledge and believe that we are not meant to live in fear, but to live boldly. When we choose to live boldly, happiness ensues. Marianne Williamson put it best when she said:
“Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us. We ask ourselves, ‘Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, fabulous?’ Actually, who are you not to be?…As we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same. As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others.”
For added motivation, keep in mind that throwing your own inhibitions to the wind will encourage those around you to do the same. The process of unlearning fear, putting an end to our feelings of shame, and restoring our hearts with love is not an easy one, but it is worth every arduous step of the journey.