Today we’re talking about something every person on the planet has done! That’s right we’re diving into why we judge others and the bigger impact it has on our life.
Tune into my latest Keepin’ It Real video below for my insights on this highly debatable topic and then be sure to share your thoughts in the comments below.
Click play to dig in. Once you’re done watching, I would love to hear from you:
What do you think the judgments that you have about others say about how you’re judging yourself?
Let me know!
P.S. Want to conquer your judgments once and for all so you can truly be free? Check out my 21 day guide to freedom.
I AM SO EXCITED TODAY!!!!! Wanna know why?
My team and I are committed to to the highest level of excellence in my company and so, when you watch today’s Keepin’ It Real video you are going to notice a huge difference….with everything.
However, I’m still Keepin’ It Real with you guys about everything (even when I don’t want to) so that’s still the same 🙂
Ok, onto today’s vid.
Do you have people in your life that are totally negative and view the world half-empty?
Yeah, I understand. That was me a few years ago. I was a very unhappy person. In my life, in my relationships, in my health and fitness.
I was spiritually, mentally, and emotionally bankrupt.
Well, let me share a secret with you.
Unhappiness is a habit. It’s a way of being that we have trained ourselves in because it’s a comfortable place to operate from when we don’t have any other options.
And, that’s why it’s so important to check yourself…before you wreck yourself.
Watch today’s Keepin’ It Real video to get the 411 on why people are unhappy and HOW you can shift from a poopy place to a place of bliss (and, yes, it does exist).
And, hey listen, my commitment is to ALWAYS keep it real with you. So can I ask you something?
Are you willing to keep it real? I would love to hear what you do to shift from unhappy to happy.
I know so many watching and reading would benefit from you sharing your story- because your words matter and make a difference.
Have a beautiful week ahead.
As the unstoppable RuPaul so famously said: “If you can’t love yourself, how in the hell are you gonna love somebody else?”
Sure, we’re all familiar with that old adage – so why aren’t more of us, well, loving ourselves already?! Why do we continue to be so tough when we know being gentle & kind inside our own head is the healthiest, most nurturing way to live?
Well, the answer is… most of us just don’t know where to begin.
This week’s question comes from the amazing Carolyn, who asks:
Hey Vasavi, I love your Keepin It Real videos and your daily acts of freedom. I love getting new ways to act so I can be free straight to my inbox. Here’s the deal: I know all of this stuff – this personal growth stuff. I know that if I don’t love and accept myself, I can’t love and accept another person, which is probably why I’m having difficulty relating in my marriage to my husband, and with my clients, and with my friends and my family. So I’m ready to accept myself. How do I even do that though? I have been judging myself for so long that I don’t know where to begin. Please, I need some KIR wisdom.
Here’s a reminder for Carolyn & all of you: you are loveable just the way you are. You don’t have to fake anything, you don’t have to be ashamed, you don’t have to be hard on yourself anymore. You deserve all the love in the world – including your own.
Which brings us to this week’s video! Check it out to learn my tried n’ true ways to kick your self-love up a notch.
Now I want to know: what are some little loving things you do just for you? Gimme me your best tips in the comments below. I always love hearing from you!
P.S. The preview page for NOURISH goes live tomorrow! I’m so freakin’ beyond excited right now.
Nourish is an in-person, luxury retreat with me in gorgeous Malibu, California! It’ll be 3 stunning days of deep self-inquiry, healing love, creativity, sisterhood, and taking REAL action. Can I get a HECK YEAH?
Keep an eye out for the announcement email to drop your name on the VIP list. You’ll be the first to hear about any & all updates & special offerings along the way. Hope to see you there, beautiful. Can’t wait!!
When was the last time you were able to say…
“I need _______.”
… without worrying about guilt, or retaliation?
For some reason, so many of us have trouble explaining our actions clearly, and expressing what we really want. We’ll do almost anything to avoid sitting someone down and laying it all out on the table.
So how do we go about cutting through that fear, so we can truly understand the needs of others as well as our own?
This week’s question, from the awesomely courageous Mike, is about just that:
“I found out about you because my wife loves your stuff, and I had to ask you a question: my wife is always complaining that I’m not there at home, that I’m always missing dinner, and that it’s such a burden for her to take care of the kids. I’m busy at work trying to get promoted because I really want to provide for my family, so I don’t know how to handle her, how to respond to her, and what I’m doing wrong. Please help.”
Watch the video below to find out what that is!
First off, when a conflict of this nature surfaces, there’s usually more than one reason for it. A ton of factors are probably at play here, and it’s important to acknowledge that arguments are a way to express how we’re feeling deep down without saying anything directly.
When you find yourself in a situation like this, there’s one HUGE question you need to ask yourself right off the bat.
So now I want to know: are you comfortable asking for what you want, and seeing your own needs met? Do you sometimes find yourself focused on everyone’s needs but your own? I’d love to hear your thoughts in the comments, or just shoot me an email at firstname.lastname@example.org
Have you heard? I’ve got some great stuff cookin’ for ya in 2013, including an awesomely revamped website. Keep your eyes peeled – the virtual ribbon gets cut on February 1st. Can’t wait to show you!