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The Dark Side.
This at first glance, may seem like a Star Wars reference. If you haven’t seen Star Wars and don’t know what I’m talking about, then shame on you (kidding, I’ve never seen it myself).
We all have this side to ourselves. The part that we don’t normally want to look at. The part that we don’t tell people about. It’s not pretty I’ll give you that. It definitely should not be allowed to play and frolic on a regular basis.
It’s still you.
What if I told you that this also could be your greatest asset?
I know this does not sound very realistic, but really give it some thought. If and I mean IF you were truly able to accept this part of yourself along with all the wonderful, amazing, rainbow unicorn parts, there would be nothing left to judge.
You would no longer have those painful thoughts of you making those horrible decisions in college. Or that time you decided to steal something, lie, cheat, manipulate, or con somebody.
Come clean with me.
When you see somebody who is successful at what they do, what is your first thought? Is it a judgement about their character? Or are you saying “I could do that.” Then why aren’t you doing it already? If you know your innate ability then why does it take someone else being successful for you to recognize it?
The point is it doesn’t matter what anyone else is doing.
It’s OK for others to be successful.
Guess what? They have absolutely nothing to do with your ability to be successful. When people see the end result of someone being confident, wealthy, and on top of their game, most of us will write that off as impossible. Or say something like “I wasn’t meant to do that.”
Why the hell not?
That person that you are idolizing is exactly like you. The majority of people who are successful today were born just like you. They lived “normal” lives just like you. They went to school, probably had some average jobs, and then it happened. They seized a moment.
They got their “big break,” and the game changer was they took advantage of it.
I don’t believe in dumb luck.
You wanna know what luck really is?
When preparation meets opportunity.
You can’t have anything else standing in your way. All these thoughts and views of:
“I just wasn’t meant for that kind of life.”
“Someone like me will never be at that level.”
Do you even hear what you are saying to yourself?
Most of these views are coming from limiting beliefs. What if you went back to your childhood? Before anything “bad” happened. Before you were made fun of at school, failed at anything, yelled at by your parents, your teacher, your coach, anyone that made you feel less than.
As kids we believed we can do anything right?
We are untainted by the world’s hardships.
Then life happened.
Once we have experiences where we fail at something and we see someone else succeed then we’re like
“Well shit I guess I just wasn’t meant to do that and that person is.”
All of this is a lie.
Just because at some point in your life you fail at something and someone else doesn’t, does not mean you will never succeed at that level ever again in your life.
Why are you trying to be perfect?
I’m not saying don’t put pressure on yourself because in most situations, that can be used to your advantage. However, when you fail, don’t beat yourself up and expect less of yourself. Always expect more. Always expect better if you even think no one else does.
Hell, who cares what other people think?
I mean seriously? Are they living your life? No.
Have they gone through what you have? No. So why do we place so much importance on what other people are doing, saying, and thinking?
The answer is everyone just wants to be well liked.
People will do crazy things just to be well liked. They will also have the crazy idea that others are just entitled to success and they aren’t for some reason because of whatever has happened in their life.
At the end of the day it really doesn’t matter.
It doesn’t matter what anyone else is doing.
Of course if you have a job where you report to a superior or a “boss,” you can’t just walk into his office and be like “Hey you’re a huge ass.” However, what you can do, is do everything possible to ensure your success, and one day you will be in that superior’s position (if that’s what you want).
This will only happen if you have the correct mindset.
How do you have this mindset?
You need to shut out ALL the noise around you. All the judgements. The hearsay. The limiting beliefs.
Once you do this, only then will you be able to focus on what you can really do.
Not what anyone thinks you can do, or what you think you can do compared to everyone else.
Your abilities do not depend on any other person, but yourself.
You are special. Unique. One of a kind.
My mom used to always tell me, “If everyone was the same the world would be a boring place.”
So if we aren’t the same why would we ever compare ourselves to any other human being?
Let go of your fears, and see what you can really accomplish.
Unless you want to stay stuck. And that’s ok too. (more…)
I sent out a survey last week asking the single biggest challenge in figuring out ways to make money doing what you love.
Do you want to know what the most common responses were?
“I have no clue what I want.”
“I have too many dreams and don’t know where to begin.”
“I don’t know where to start.”
“I’ve never taken the time out to ask myself what the hell I want out of MY life.”
“Too many ideas, not enough focus.”
Einstein once said,
“We can not solve our problems with the same level of thinking that created them”
If that is truly the case Vasavi, then I got good news and bad news.
Bad news: Unless you begin to do the inner work to figure out what you want out of your life, nothing will change.
Good news: I have a great first step for you to take.
As someone that has been diagnosed with bipolar disorder and ADHD, I’m a proud believer that no matter HOW confused or scattered you may feel like right now, that you can ABSOLUTELY have anything that you want.
The big question is, how bad do you want it?
Have you ever heard that song The Motto by Drake? This is where he coined one of the most used terms by our youth in today’s society. YOLO. You only live once.
Some people just use this an excuse to party everyday, go out drinking, use drugs, and spend all their hard earned money and basically have nothing to show for it.
What if we can look at YOLO and extract a deeper meaning? I know this sounds crazy because let’s be real it’s a song by Drake, but I think he could really be onto something here.
What if YOLO meant instead of the party life, living up to your fullest potential. Not caring what others think about you. No, like actually not caring about what others think. Or as Drake would say “fuck what anybody say.” I am aware this is not correct grammar for all you English professors, but he has a point.