I’m super excited about the invitation I’m going to extend to you.
We all have a superpower.
No, I’m not talking about flying or being invisible.
I’m talking about the innate quality that you possess that is totally YOUR superpower.
If you’ve been on my list for a while you know that I love talking to you.
That’s why I’m always encouraging you to sign up for my 20 minute chats.
Do you tolerate people’s rudeness because you want to be seen as “nice” rather than rude or bitchy? Do you find yourself agreeing to things that you don’t really want to do? Do you have a hard time standing up for yourself?
As children we were trained to be “nice” and polite.”
Let me just say this right here: Being “nice” isn’t an indicator of your success as a human.
Being able to honor yourself and your boundaries is what will take you farther in life.
Welcome to step one of creating stronger boundaries.
Emotions are extremely powerful. They have the ability to impair our judgement, cloud our mind, and make us do things that we would never normally do. What if you were able to feel your emotions, but still have complete control of them? I know it sounds too good to be true, but let’s do some investigating.
We are going to look at one of the most powerful and potentially dangerous emotions.
What happens when you get angry?
Do you scream?
Say hurtful words?
All of the above?
Anger is a natural emotion. Every single person on this planet has felt anger at one time or another. Everyone reacts differently. Some may even turn to drugs and alcohol to stuff that emotion deep down inside of them so as to not feel the intensity of it. It holds so much power over many people and they don’t even realize it.
A perfect example is road rage. When someone cuts you off in traffic and you start cursing at them in your car, you just let that person’s actions have power over you. You also may speed up and try to cut them off to get revenge while possibly putting yourself or others in danger.
Is this rational?
Hell no it’s not.
Number one, they cannot even hear you, so why are you wasting your energy calling them unspeakable things?
Number two, you just lowered yourself trying to get revenge and could have gotten seriously hurt.
Let’s look at this situation free of any emotion whatsoever.
One of the biggest aspects of personal growth and becoming self aware is your relationship to your parents. Usually, when you still get triggered by your parents, or you find yourself seeking their approval in any area of your life, that is the biggest indicator that you still have work to do regarding your self growth.
Before you make decisions about anything, do you have to stop and consider what your parents would think about it?
Or if you make a mistake or do something that you think they wouldn’t approve of, do you hold back from telling them about it?
If the answer is yes, this is a huge red flag.
Why do they get to run your life?
Why does anyone get to run your life for that matter?
Why does it matter what they think?
You are no longer twelve years old anymore.
You no longer need to ask permission to go out and do what you want to do.
You’re not going to get grounded and shamed by your family. Well maybe you’ll get shamed.