Yesterday I went to the Texas Conference for Women here in Austin, TX. My role was to serve as a coach in the “Coaches Corner” for the 7000 attendees traveling from all over to come to the conference. Of course, I didn’t speak to 7000 women but I had the opportunity to coach many of the women who needed help with their “next steps.” Some were 9-5ers looking to make some additional income. Some were in transition between their job and their side hustle, and some just needed a boost of confidence that they were on the right track.
I also got to hear many of the speakers, including the elegant and world-famous fashion designer, Diane Von Furstenberg.
She said something that I wanted to share with you today:
“You never know how something that seems like the worst thing turns out to be the best.”
Whatever you may be going through right now, no matter how “bad” it seems, will turn out to the be the best. How do I know this with such certainty? Because when I reflect on anything and everything that I have gone through in my life, I can now see that it all worked out in my favor.
It’s all about perspective.
And if your perspective is skewed and filled with negativity, then of course your life is going to feel like it’s happening TO YOU, versus FOR YOU.
That’s me and the lovely DVF below 🙂
Why is it that us humans manage to complicate even the smallest things in our life?
What if I told you that I could show you how to simplify your life in just a few simple (pun intended) steps?
You would love it right?!??!
This past week I moved into my new apartment. Let’s just say that this sanctuary of mine is a huge upgrade from where I used to live. Vaulted ceilings, all updated appliances, and nestled in the woods where I hardly get any service but that’s ok with me (unless I’m talking to clients and then it becomes annoying). My point is, These past 60 days have been hectic between taking on an entire new client load, packing (and then unpacking), moving, coordinating all the details, keeping my self-care up, and just overall, “managing life.”
It wasn’t easy.
However, I will say that I successfully managed to move, unpack and finally get settled in within a week, am getting my self-care slowly back on track, and am also becoming more patient with myself to not have it be working all smoothly, all the time.
Whatever you’re going through right now, I want to show you where you may be overcomplicating things and also a few simple steps to stop distracting yourself from what really matters.
Overcomplicating things is exhausting and will keep you from focusing on what truly matters in your life.
I have a challenge and an opportunity for you to find out just how awesome you are AND for you to start not caring so much about other people judging you.
First, here’s the thing. We all worry about people judging us. And it’s mostly because we sit in judgement about ourselves. We treat ourselves badly, say the meanest things to ourselves and of course we are in constant paranoia about others judging us. Quite frankly, no one cares because they’re worrying about being judged themselves.
Hell just the other day I was at a music festival with my friend and he pretended like he was cutting in line in front of someone just for fun. I got so nervous that the girl behind would get upset. But she ended up laughing and it was all good.
So in that moment, even though I wasn’t doing the silly act and my friend was, I got so scared that she would think I’m weird, or rude, or blah blah blah.
But what I know to be true is that when you truly learn to like yourself, put yourself in uncomfortable situations, and see that you will still SURVIVE, you start to build character and respect for yourself. You also start to not give a damn what people think about you.
If you have been keeping up with my emails, you know that I recently launched a new merchandise line under the name “so(ul) special.” I started this company in honor of bringing awareness to mental illness and suicide prevention.
Every month I am introducing a new piece of apparel for you to rock. I’m using language to help you reprogram how you view yourself.
It’s time to stop living a life that is caught in a vicious cycle of doubt, and fear, and confusion. And start living your luscious circle of life that is filled with confidence, conviction, and sanity.
Sounds good? OF COURSE IT DOES!
The pic below is me and Laney. I’m wearing October’s tank that says “Judge Me I’m Awesome.”
It’s a beautiful mint color and it seriously makes me feel amazing when I wear it. It’s almost like I’m welcoming being judged rather than shying away from it. It’s a gentle reminder that I AM AWESOME. And so are you.
It’s super simple to get one! Just click on this link http://soulspecial.club/judge-me-im-awesome-tank/ and you can order yours today. I have a very limited amount so act quick.
Once you get your tank, I have a BOLD challenge for you. I want you to wear your tank and do something that you would never dream of doing.
Here are some examples:
-Do a FB live in a public setting
-Eat lunch or dinner by yourself (no phone with you)
-Talk to a stranger
-If you’re an entrepreneur and at a networking event, go up to someone and introduce yourself. Heck, do it even if you’re not an entrepreneur
-Go somewhere where you don’t know anyone and DON’T be a wallflower
-Take a workout class that you’ve been meaning to try and get in the front row (my personal favorite)
Feel free to post on social media and be sure to use the hashtag #soulspecial. Would also love to hear how you FEEL wearing this tank out in public so please email me and let me know!!!!
If you have other things that you have been meaning to try, DO IT!!!!! Have fun, Life is short. You’re awesome.
Here’s the link once again: http://soulspecial.club/judge-me-im-awesome-tank/
Love to you,
I’m so thrilled to share that my newest venture, so(ul) special is spreading slowly but steadily across the globe. From Sweden, Malaysia, Austin, TX, Santa Monica, Long Island, and many other locations, what is happening is that more and more individuals are taking back their power and committing to live a life of freedom.
There’s a big difference between guilt and shame. You see, guilt is what stops us from doing things that go against our core value system. Shame, just makes us feel like we suck and don’t deserve the good things in life.
And while guilt can help guide certain decisions we make or don’t make, shame is a hindrance and a toxic force of energy that can debilitate our ability to make decisions in the first place.
The women you see below are strong warriors.
Sure, they have their own issues. Don’t we all?
But they’ve decided that living a life of #noshame is more important than isolation and feeling shitty about themselves.
I’m proud to call these women my friends, clients, and colleagues. Some I have met, and some have just reached out to me simply through word of mouth.
As of now, so(ul) special is focusing on building brand awareness and ultimately will be a community where people can talk and share openly about who they are, and be proud of it.
As far as products that will come forth, every month will be a new theme. This new theme will focus on words with meaning that have a greater impact on your mindset.
More to come on that…
My invitation for you is to take the first step to looking good on the outside and feeling even better on the inside.
It’s funny how wearing bold words can shift your midnset in a moment.
The other day, I was wearing my #noshame tank. And it was one of those days where I felt slightly bloated. Ya’ll know that feeling right?
But something crazy happened as I put my tank on and looked at myself in the mirror. The words on my shirt being reflected back to me was a reminder that no matter what I thought I looked like (bloated), I still had the right to live a life of being proud and confident about myself. And I also had the opportunity in that moment to shift ever so slightly how I was feeling about myself.
How you feel about yourself is a choice. And that’s what this is all about. If something as simple as a tank can make you feel good about yourself even for a split second, then hey why not, right?
If this message resonates with you I would personally love to mail you your tank with a handwritten card.
Here’s how you get your tank:
1. Send $35 (shipping and tax included) to www.paypal.me/vasavi
2. Email email@example.com your size and address so I can send it to you
3. Get excited!
Let me know if you have any questions.