Come clean with me.
When you see somebody who is successful at what they do, what is your first thought? Is it a judgement about their character? Or are you saying “I could do that.” Then why aren’t you doing it already? If you know your innate ability then why does it take someone else being successful for you to recognize it?
The point is it doesn’t matter what anyone else is doing.
It’s OK for others to be successful.
Guess what? They have absolutely nothing to do with your ability to be successful. When people see the end result of someone being confident, wealthy, and on top of their game, most of us will write that off as impossible. Or say something like “I wasn’t meant to do that.”
Why the hell not?
That person that you are idolizing is exactly like you. The majority of people who are successful today were born just like you. They lived “normal” lives just like you. They went to school, probably had some average jobs, and then it happened. They seized a moment.
They got their “big break,” and the game changer was they took advantage of it.
I don’t believe in dumb luck.
You wanna know what luck really is?
When preparation meets opportunity.
You can’t have anything else standing in your way. All these thoughts and views of:
“I just wasn’t meant for that kind of life.”
“Someone like me will never be at that level.”
Do you even hear what you are saying to yourself?
Most of these views are coming from limiting beliefs. What if you went back to your childhood? Before anything “bad” happened. Before you were made fun of at school, failed at anything, yelled at by your parents, your teacher, your coach, anyone that made you feel less than.
As kids we believed we can do anything right?
We are untainted by the world’s hardships.
Then life happened.
Once we have experiences where we fail at something and we see someone else succeed then we’re like
“Well shit I guess I just wasn’t meant to do that and that person is.”
All of this is a lie.
Just because at some point in your life you fail at something and someone else doesn’t, does not mean you will never succeed at that level ever again in your life.
Why are you trying to be perfect?
I’m not saying don’t put pressure on yourself because in most situations, that can be used to your advantage. However, when you fail, don’t beat yourself up and expect less of yourself. Always expect more. Always expect better if you even think no one else does.
Hell, who cares what other people think?
I mean seriously? Are they living your life? No.
Have they gone through what you have? No. So why do we place so much importance on what other people are doing, saying, and thinking?
The answer is everyone just wants to be well liked.
People will do crazy things just to be well liked. They will also have the crazy idea that others are just entitled to success and they aren’t for some reason because of whatever has happened in their life.
At the end of the day it really doesn’t matter.
It doesn’t matter what anyone else is doing.
Of course if you have a job where you report to a superior or a “boss,” you can’t just walk into his office and be like “Hey you’re a huge ass.” However, what you can do, is do everything possible to ensure your success, and one day you will be in that superior’s position (if that’s what you want).
This will only happen if you have the correct mindset.
How do you have this mindset?
You need to shut out ALL the noise around you. All the judgements. The hearsay. The limiting beliefs.
Once you do this, only then will you be able to focus on what you can really do.
Not what anyone thinks you can do, or what you think you can do compared to everyone else.
Your abilities do not depend on any other person, but yourself.
You are special. Unique. One of a kind.
My mom used to always tell me, “If everyone was the same the world would be a boring place.”
So if we aren’t the same why would we ever compare ourselves to any other human being?
Let go of your fears, and see what you can really accomplish.
Unless you want to stay stuck. And that’s ok too. (more…)
Have you ever had to struggle or hustle in your life? In what area? For how long?
In the entrepreneurial world these two words (struggle and hustle) usually carry a negative connotation around them. A lot of the courses out there are preaching a less work more money attitude.
Some people when they start their own business are looking for a get rich quick scheme. They would like to think it takes less work to have your own business, make money online, and sit back and collect passive income while they sleep.
I’m not saying this isn’t possible.
However, in order to get to this point it does take massive amount of work, dedication, and a period of time where you might not be making much money at all.
Don’t be discouraged by this fact.
Guess what? Everyone has that fire inside of them.
The way that you choose to look at these words are going to determine how you are going to face challenges when wanting to start a business, or when you face challenges in your life.
This is going to look different for everyone depending on the type of struggles you have faced in your life. Do you remember a time when it was difficult to make ends meet? What did you do in this situation? Did you give up?
Hey!! Hope you’re doing well and had a great weekend!
I love this time of year. First, I’m a May baby and that’s literally around the corner (I’ll be turning 34!!), second, it’s tulip season and tulips are my favorite so basically, I’m in full spring swing.
So I have a crazy story to tell you….listen up
I’m writing this on my plane ride en route to Sonoma, CA. One of my fave colleagues and friends, Sara Davidson is hosting her Boss School Retreat for female entrepreneurs. I was invited to come lead a workshop on Saturday. To say that this trip came at the perfect time would be an understatement.
For the past two weeks, I haven’t been able to eat or sleep. It’s been a god damn roller coaster and one filled with heart aches and tears.
You see, I recently ended a relationship with someone. You may or may not know this, but shortly after my divorce I got involved with a man. We lived together, traveled together, became really close and intimate, had so much fun, and I finally started to see a side of myself that I really loved (and therein begins the root of the problem).
And then, things happened. Without going into too much detail, let’s just say that trust was completely broken. Me being the “it’s ok I love you anyway” type of gal, gave it another shot. And then, it happened again. And I forgave, AGAIN.
And while he managed to really step it up and “prove” himself to me, I couldn’t shake that nagging feeling, “Can I or will I ever be able to actually trust him?”