So maybe you’re stuck in a job you can’t stand. Or maybe you feel like you have no control over your finances. Or, maybe you have an idea but can’t seem to figure out where to start.
Part of becoming a “grown up” is taking care of yourself and making your own decisions.
But more often than not, we succumb to our past, beliefs about ourselves, and the opinions of others as a guiding force and compass as to how we live our lives.
While you may not feel completely self-sufficient in certain areas of your life, you can most definitely be self-reliant.
A person with a self-reliant mindset doesn’t wait around for someone else to handle their life. If you comes across a problem, you don’t wait around for someone else to take care of it. If you encounter a problem, you stay focused on the solution and try to figure it out until you…figure it out.
But in a world where we are trained to think that we are owed something, and the answers are literally at our fingertips (thanks to the Internet), what often happens is that we become complacent and straight up l-a-z-y.
Here is the #1 step to becoming more self-reliant:
My mentor Lisa Nichols once said to me, “Vasavi, your entire life is nothing more than a culmination of all the decisions you have made.”
That hit me like a ton of bricks. Imagine if you looked at your current reality as the entirety of every decision and choice you have made. Now, this isn’t about fault finding. It’s about taking the power back. Take the power back. Assume responsibility.
Many people will get caught up in beating themselves up and shaming themselves.
Stop. This is counterproductive.
Rather, step back, look at your entire life. Every area. And ask yourself, “How did I get here?”
This is often the most painful thing to do but I promise you it is the most powerful step you can take towards becoming more self-reliant.
“In any moment of decision, the best thing you can do is the right thing, the next best thing is the wrong thing, and the worst thing you can do is nothing.” -Theodore Roosevelt
My goal is to help you do just this. I know exactly what it’s like to feel like life is spinning out of control and no matter where you reach you can’t grasp on to it.
I know what it’s like to be confronted with many decisions and not trust yourself to make the “right one.”
If you want to not only become self-reliant but start to trust yourself and simplify how you relate to your life then set up a 20-minute chat with me here.
Look forward to talking to you.
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Why is it that us humans manage to complicate even the smallest things in our life?
What if I told you that I could show you how to simplify your life in just a few simple (pun intended) steps?
You would love it right?!??!
This past week I moved into my new apartment. Let’s just say that this sanctuary of mine is a huge upgrade from where I used to live. Vaulted ceilings, all updated appliances, and nestled in the woods where I hardly get any service but that’s ok with me (unless I’m talking to clients and then it becomes annoying). My point is, These past 60 days have been hectic between taking on an entire new client load, packing (and then unpacking), moving, coordinating all the details, keeping my self-care up, and just overall, “managing life.”
It wasn’t easy.
However, I will say that I successfully managed to move, unpack and finally get settled in within a week, am getting my self-care slowly back on track, and am also becoming more patient with myself to not have it be working all smoothly, all the time.
Whatever you’re going through right now, I want to show you where you may be overcomplicating things and also a few simple steps to stop distracting yourself from what really matters.
Overcomplicating things is exhausting and will keep you from focusing on what truly matters in your life.
I’m super excited about the invitation I’m going to extend to you.
We all have a superpower.
No, I’m not talking about flying or being invisible.
I’m talking about the innate quality that you possess that is totally YOUR superpower.
If you’ve been on my list for a while you know that I love talking to you.
That’s why I’m always encouraging you to sign up for my 20 minute chats.
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The Dark Side.
This at first glance, may seem like a Star Wars reference. If you haven’t seen Star Wars and don’t know what I’m talking about, then shame on you (kidding, I’ve never seen it myself).
We all have this side to ourselves. The part that we don’t normally want to look at. The part that we don’t tell people about. It’s not pretty I’ll give you that. It definitely should not be allowed to play and frolic on a regular basis.
It’s still you.
What if I told you that this also could be your greatest asset?
I know this does not sound very realistic, but really give it some thought. If and I mean IF you were truly able to accept this part of yourself along with all the wonderful, amazing, rainbow unicorn parts, there would be nothing left to judge.
You would no longer have those painful thoughts of you making those horrible decisions in college. Or that time you decided to steal something, lie, cheat, manipulate, or con somebody.