So maybe you’re stuck in a job you can’t stand. Or maybe you feel like you have no control over your finances. Or, maybe you have an idea but can’t seem to figure out where to start.
Part of becoming a “grown up” is taking care of yourself and making your own decisions.
But more often than not, we succumb to our past, beliefs about ourselves, and the opinions of others as a guiding force and compass as to how we live our lives.
While you may not feel completely self-sufficient in certain areas of your life, you can most definitely be self-reliant.
A person with a self-reliant mindset doesn’t wait around for someone else to handle their life. If you comes across a problem, you don’t wait around for someone else to take care of it. If you encounter a problem, you stay focused on the solution and try to figure it out until you…figure it out.
But in a world where we are trained to think that we are owed something, and the answers are literally at our fingertips (thanks to the Internet), what often happens is that we become complacent and straight up l-a-z-y.
Here is the #1 step to becoming more self-reliant:
My mentor Lisa Nichols once said to me, “Vasavi, your entire life is nothing more than a culmination of all the decisions you have made.”
That hit me like a ton of bricks. Imagine if you looked at your current reality as the entirety of every decision and choice you have made. Now, this isn’t about fault finding. It’s about taking the power back. Take the power back. Assume responsibility.
Many people will get caught up in beating themselves up and shaming themselves.
Stop. This is counterproductive.
Rather, step back, look at your entire life. Every area. And ask yourself, “How did I get here?”
This is often the most painful thing to do but I promise you it is the most powerful step you can take towards becoming more self-reliant.
“In any moment of decision, the best thing you can do is the right thing, the next best thing is the wrong thing, and the worst thing you can do is nothing.” -Theodore Roosevelt
My goal is to help you do just this. I know exactly what it’s like to feel like life is spinning out of control and no matter where you reach you can’t grasp on to it.
I know what it’s like to be confronted with many decisions and not trust yourself to make the “right one.”
If you want to not only become self-reliant but start to trust yourself and simplify how you relate to your life then set up a 20-minute chat with me here.
Look forward to talking to you.
P.S. Keep your eyes peeled for an email I will be sending out about a new way to work with me if you are a parent. Can’t wait to share more! Be sure to subscribe below.
Do the holidays stress you out?
Is that even a question to be asked?
For whatever reason (and there are so many), this time of year can bring up feelings of isolation, loneliness, and plain old BLAH.
On the flip side, there are a ton of wonderful things about this time of year. I mean, there’s even a Christmas song that says it is (it’s the most wonderful time of the yearrrrrr)
Anyway, as long as you get some downtime, see your family and/or friends, why not get yourself ready mentally and emotionally to manage the ups and downs of the holidays, entering a new year, and leaving behind old baggage.
I’m asked all the time what some of my favorite ways are to destress and practice self-care. Now, it’s not always easy to make the time, because the fact is, life happens. But, there are definitely things that you can do to alleviate your burdens, and just FEEL GOOD.
I’m all about feeling good. Lord knows I have plenty of downs that come with my ups, but you know, the more I take care of myself mentally, emotionally, physically, spiritually, and intellectually, the happier I am.
It’s that simple.
Below you will find a list of all my favorite things. It’s not so much about the thing itself (I only use the best), it’s more about the act of taking the time out to do whatever you need to do to feel good–during the holidays and every day.
Yesterday I went to the Texas Conference for Women here in Austin, TX. My role was to serve as a coach in the “Coaches Corner” for the 7000 attendees traveling from all over to come to the conference. Of course, I didn’t speak to 7000 women but I had the opportunity to coach many of the women who needed help with their “next steps.” Some were 9-5ers looking to make some additional income. Some were in transition between their job and their side hustle, and some just needed a boost of confidence that they were on the right track.
I also got to hear many of the speakers, including the elegant and world-famous fashion designer, Diane Von Furstenberg.
She said something that I wanted to share with you today:
“You never know how something that seems like the worst thing turns out to be the best.”
Whatever you may be going through right now, no matter how “bad” it seems, will turn out to the be the best. How do I know this with such certainty? Because when I reflect on anything and everything that I have gone through in my life, I can now see that it all worked out in my favor.
It’s all about perspective.
And if your perspective is skewed and filled with negativity, then of course your life is going to feel like it’s happening TO YOU, versus FOR YOU.
That’s me and the lovely DVF below 🙂
Why is it that us humans manage to complicate even the smallest things in our life?
What if I told you that I could show you how to simplify your life in just a few simple (pun intended) steps?
You would love it right?!??!
This past week I moved into my new apartment. Let’s just say that this sanctuary of mine is a huge upgrade from where I used to live. Vaulted ceilings, all updated appliances, and nestled in the woods where I hardly get any service but that’s ok with me (unless I’m talking to clients and then it becomes annoying). My point is, These past 60 days have been hectic between taking on an entire new client load, packing (and then unpacking), moving, coordinating all the details, keeping my self-care up, and just overall, “managing life.”
It wasn’t easy.
However, I will say that I successfully managed to move, unpack and finally get settled in within a week, am getting my self-care slowly back on track, and am also becoming more patient with myself to not have it be working all smoothly, all the time.
Whatever you’re going through right now, I want to show you where you may be overcomplicating things and also a few simple steps to stop distracting yourself from what really matters.
Overcomplicating things is exhausting and will keep you from focusing on what truly matters in your life.