May 14th, 2018
Those who know of it speak of it not, those who speak of it, know it not.
How many of you still struggle with the conflict within which often looks like:
- good girl/boy and bad girl/boy
- ugly and beautiful
- selfish and selfless
- loyal and deceitful
- compassionate and judgmental
- productive and lazy
- humble and arrogant
- kind and mean
- accomplished and loser
- generous and cheap
- pure and dirty
When I first started out in my business, I thought creating an idealized self-image would help me escape from accepting my wholeness.
Deepak Chopra says in the book The Shadow Effect (coauthored by Marianne Williamson and the late Debbie Ford)
“People develop an ideal image and then try to live up to this image and convince the world that it’s who they are. An idealized self sounds like a model of acceptance. Thus shielded, you can hardly do wrong, and if you do, your misdeeds are quickly covered and forgotten. The beauty of having an ideal image of yourself is that you do actually do feel good about who you are. The image substitutes for a painful reality.”
For the past seven years I’ve had this “image.” I’ve been on TV, interviewed NY Times bestselling authors on my radio show Deep Talk, interviewed by some of the best podcasters out there, published in major media outlets, and have built a brand on my philosophy:
Your freedom lies in taking action.
If we do not learn to love and accept these parts of ourselves, we will live a life of pain and suffering.
And that is not what I’m committed to.
I consciously chose to look inwards and be with all of myself to accept my wholeness, on a daily basis.
“It is only when we have the courage to face things exactly as they are without any self-deception or illusion that a light will develop out of events by which the path to success may be recognized.” -I Ching
Even by writing this out loud and sharing with you, I am taking the power away from my shadow.
Our shadow loves secrets. It thrives and grows on duality.
It’s our secrets that keep us sick.
I am committed to being whole. For now, that means I am trying to get acquainted with the girl in the mirror.
When’s the last time you truly looked at yourself in the mirror?
I don’t have parting words of wisdom here or a big “lesson” to teach you—again, that would be my idealized self image speaking.
So that’s it for now.