keepin’ it real: how to finally start accepting yourself

As the unstoppable RuPaul so famously said: “If you can’t love yourself, how in the hell are you gonna love somebody else?”

Sure, we’re all familiar with that old adage – so why aren’t more of us, well, loving ourselves already?! Why do we continue to be so tough when we know being gentle & kind inside our own head is the healthiest, most nurturing way to live?

Well, the answer is… most of us just don’t know where to begin.

This week’s question comes from the amazing Carolyn, who asks:

Hey Vasavi, I love your Keepin It Real videos and your daily acts of freedom. I love getting new ways to act so I can be free straight to my inbox. Here’s the deal: I know all of this stuff – this personal growth stuff. I know that if I don’t love and accept myself, I can’t love and accept another person, which is probably why I’m having difficulty relating in my marriage to my husband, and with my clients, and with my friends and my family. So I’m ready to accept myself. How do I even do that though? I have been judging myself for so long that I don’t know where to begin. Please, I need some KIR wisdom.

Here’s a reminder for Carolyn & all of you: you are loveable just the way you are. You don’t have to fake anything, you don’t have to be ashamed, you don’t have to be hard on yourself anymore. You deserve all the love in the world – including your own.

Which brings us to this week’s video! Check it out to learn my tried n’ true ways to kick your self-love up a notch.

Now I want to know: what are some little loving things you do just for you? Gimme me your best tips in the comments below. I always love hearing from you!



P.S. The preview page for NOURISH goes live tomorrow! I’m so freakin’ beyond excited right now.

Nourish is an in-person, luxury retreat with me in gorgeous Malibu, California!  It’ll be 3 stunning days of deep self-inquiry, healing love, creativity, sisterhood, and taking REAL action. Can I get a HECK YEAH?

Keep an eye out for the announcement email to drop your name on the VIP list. You’ll be the first to hear about any & all updates & special offerings along the way. Hope to see you there, beautiful. Can’t wait!!