Come clean with me.
When you see somebody who is successful at what they do, what is your first thought? Is it a judgement about their character? Or are you saying “I could do that.” Then why aren’t you doing it already? If you know your innate ability then why does it take someone else being successful for you to recognize it?
The point is it doesn’t matter what anyone else is doing.
It’s OK for others to be successful.
Guess what? They have absolutely nothing to do with your ability to be successful. When people see the end result of someone being confident, wealthy, and on top of their game, most of us will write that off as impossible. Or say something like “I wasn’t meant to do that.”
Why the hell not?
That person that you are idolizing is exactly like you. The majority of people who are successful today were born just like you. They lived “normal” lives just like you. They went to school, probably had some average jobs, and then it happened. They seized a moment.
They got their “big break,” and the game changer was they took advantage of it.
I don’t believe in dumb luck.
You wanna know what luck really is?
When preparation meets opportunity.
You can’t have anything else standing in your way. All these thoughts and views of:
“I just wasn’t meant for that kind of life.”
“Someone like me will never be at that level.”
Do you even hear what you are saying to yourself?
Most of these views are coming from limiting beliefs. What if you went back to your childhood? Before anything “bad” happened. Before you were made fun of at school, failed at anything, yelled at by your parents, your teacher, your coach, anyone that made you feel less than.
As kids we believed we can do anything right?
We are untainted by the world’s hardships.
Then life happened.
Once we have experiences where we fail at something and we see someone else succeed then we’re like
“Well shit I guess I just wasn’t meant to do that and that person is.”
All of this is a lie.
Just because at some point in your life you fail at something and someone else doesn’t, does not mean you will never succeed at that level ever again in your life.
Why are you trying to be perfect?
I’m not saying don’t put pressure on yourself because in most situations, that can be used to your advantage. However, when you fail, don’t beat yourself up and expect less of yourself. Always expect more. Always expect better if you even think no one else does.
Hell, who cares what other people think?
I mean seriously? Are they living your life? No.
Have they gone through what you have? No. So why do we place so much importance on what other people are doing, saying, and thinking?
The answer is everyone just wants to be well liked.
People will do crazy things just to be well liked. They will also have the crazy idea that others are just entitled to success and they aren’t for some reason because of whatever has happened in their life.
At the end of the day it really doesn’t matter.
It doesn’t matter what anyone else is doing.
Of course if you have a job where you report to a superior or a “boss,” you can’t just walk into his office and be like “Hey you’re a huge ass.” However, what you can do, is do everything possible to ensure your success, and one day you will be in that superior’s position (if that’s what you want).
This will only happen if you have the correct mindset.
How do you have this mindset?
You need to shut out ALL the noise around you. All the judgements. The hearsay. The limiting beliefs.
Once you do this, only then will you be able to focus on what you can really do.
Not what anyone thinks you can do, or what you think you can do compared to everyone else.
Your abilities do not depend on any other person, but yourself.
You are special. Unique. One of a kind.
My mom used to always tell me, “If everyone was the same the world would be a boring place.”
So if we aren’t the same why would we ever compare ourselves to any other human being?
Let go of your fears, and see what you can really accomplish.
Unless you want to stay stuck. And that’s ok too.
It’s easy to not recognize our own uniqueness or “specialness.”
I want to give you simple and actionable steps that you can take for the week ahead for you to increase your confidence and uncover your true “specialness.”
I want you to be able to tell yourself every single day #imsospecial because…
This week, schedule in time in your calendar to take micro steps towards greater confidence. It can be as simple as moving your body (because you know you haven’t been), or taking the time to do your hair and makeup. Or maybe, you have been procrastinating on a few things that make you feel like you can’t seem to do ANYTHING right. Get it done. Get it handled. Get it together.
Do something different this week that will help you get closer to YOU.
Once you have decided on what you’re going to do to increase your confidence feel free to email me with what steps you’re taking. Be sure to subscribe below so we can do just that.
I can’t wait to hear more.
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