the difference between lonely and alone

This past Sunday I celebrated my 32nd birthday.

I spent the weekend by myself at Travaasa, a beautiful and peaceful spa right outside of Austin, TX.




I went alone.

When I mentioned that I would be spending the weekend by myself, I definitely got a few “Ummmm, WHY??? Aren’t you going to be so ALONE on your birthday??”


I was alone on Saturday and Sunday. When I came back home on Sunday evening my husband Ashish made the most beautiful dinner. Mushroom stroganoff (vegetarian of course) and chocolate chip bread pudding.

I want to clarify the difference between being alone and feeling lonely.

Loneliness is the constant state of seeking outside of yourself to fill a void within. (click to tweet)

It is incurable. And nothing and no one can ever fill whatever emptiness you are feeling inside.

Loneliness is being in a room full of people yet feeling completely disconnected.

Aloneness is different.

Being alone is feeling full and free regardless of your external surroundings.

It’s the kind of bliss that can only be experienced by being completely content in your own presence.

I ate breakfast, lunch and dinner alone. I went hiking alone. I slept alone. I participated in a few outdoor activities alone.

At first it was definitely weird. I wondered if all the people around me saw me through the lens of pity.

But once I stopped caring about how other people viewed me and started enjoying my own company, I found freedom in simply being.

In simply eating my meal (sans phone, book, journal or something to look “busy” with).

In simply being with my breath and stillness while practicing yoga and meditation.

In simply remembering that sometimes, the best medicine to “cure” loneliness is to be alone (not medication). (click to tweet)

My invitation to you is two fold:

  1. Spend some time this week being alone. It may feel weird at first but trust me, the more time you spend with yourself, the more comfortable you become with yourself. (click to tweet)
  1. If you need guided support doing this take a look at my programs. I mentioned in my last post that I was celebrating my birthday by offering a “Pay what you can with what you’ve got” model for my courses (for a limited time). The response has been phenomenal and I am so so happy for the people who have been able to sign up because of this.

Here are the instructions:

1. Check out the different at-home programs that I have to offer you by clicking here

2. Once you pick which program works for you simply click on the link that corresponds with the program that you want to purchase below:

Conquer –

Art of Confident Action –

Source –

Soul Storming –

3. In the checkout option there will a drop down menu where you can choose one of four options based on your budget.

4. Pick your price. It’s that easy.

From me to you, I hope that you enjoy your own company as much the people around you do.