January 7th, 2013
I’ve said it before, and I’ll say it again: the way we treat other people is a direct reflection of the way we treat ourselves.
Usually, if you struggle to forgive other people easily, it’s because you find it difficult to cut yourself any slack.
Which brings us to this week’s question, from Virginia:
“I am so hard on my husband. He is the kindest most supportive man, and I treat him like a doormat. I’ve been reading a lot of books on forgiveness, and I realize there are a lot of things in my life that I haven’t forgiven myself for, which is why I am so hard on my husband. How do I start forgiving myself?”
First of all, Virginia, congratulations. I’m so happy to hear you’re doing the work, and forging your own journey to forgiveness. That takes an incredible amount of strength. Power to you, girl!
I’ve had deep struggles with forgiveness in the past as well, so this subject is very near & dear to my heart.
Here’s what I know now: there are 5 foundational steps that will lead you back towards the place that genuine, authentic forgiveness flows from. You can learn more about them in the video below.
The first step: you must be willing to forgive yourself. For so many people, this is the absolute hardest part of this journey. We all carry a lot of shame and guilt, and it makes us feel like we don’t deserve the love or acceptance of others.
But I’m here to tell you: you absolutely DO. Just by being alive, you’re entitled to all the adoration and kindness in the world. Chew on that for a second.
The rest of the steps are on the video, so watch it now!
Do you, or someone you know, struggle to forgive? If you know someone who would benefit from watching this week’s KIR, I invite you to share this post with them.
I’d love to hear about your relationship to forgiveness in the comments below. How will you make more room for it in your life, starting right now? Don’t be shy – tell me all about it!