March 16th, 2012
There is so much to be thankful for in my life right now. This year I’m host of my own radio show on KCMO 710 Talk Radio in Kansas City (although you can stream it live from anywhere) and I was asked to be one of the distinguished mentor coaches at the “Get Radical Conference with Doreen Rainey.”
Even though I work long hours and many late nights, I’m slowly checking off the goals I set for myself for the year. And while I’m thrilled with my progress, anxiety and “people pleasing” takes a toll if I don’t consciously manage myself.
Did you ever find yourself bending over backwards to please your clients, friends, neighbors…strangers, even! And then coming home spent, tapped out, with nothing left for those closest to you?
I hate when that happens! I had a day like that the other day. I work from home, and I was too rushed to do the dishes before I left.
My wonderful, kind, husband, Ashish (which means “blessing” in Sanskrit, btw), got home before me. After my crazy day ended, I got home and immediately felt mortified that I had left my mess for him. I started apologizing all over the place.
“No worries, Vachi,” he said (calling me by my nickname I’ve had since I was a kid). Then gave me a hug. Immediately, the pressure of my day evaporated, and I remembered how thankful I am to have someone who loves me so unconditionally. Ashish has mastered self-acceptance. He minimizes the stress he places on himself (and others). He knows how to just “be.” And…success just naturally comes to him!
I decided to ask my dad, my hero, about the contrast in my “over-achiever” ambitiousness vs. my husband’s equally ambitious but laid back approach to his goal attainment. Here’s what he said:
“Start by being kind to yourself.”
Dad. Gotta love him. He was right, of course. So the next day I reserved an hour to give myself a 3-step homemade oatmeal, lemon juice and avocado facial. (Of course, after applying the facial, I did the dishes…and held a coaching call with a client…but it was still a nice thing to do for me!)
I’ve posted the recipes for you here. Try them and let me know how they work for you.
P.S. My dad will be my guest on the April 1st radio show. Don’t forget to tune in.