July 19th, 2011
Are there things in your life that you still haven’t done? Goals you haven’t quite reached? Dreams you haven’t made come true?
If you’re still reading, your answer is likely “yes.” So what’s holding you back and preventing you from taking that leap? What’s stopping you from taking the first step of that journey you’ve been meaning to begin for quite some time now?
It’s a small word with crippling effects.
Fear holds us hostage, preventing us from creating the lives we desire and yearn for. Fear tells us that we are inadequate—that we will never quite be enough. It is that voice that subconsciously follows us into every nook and cranny of our lives, whispering again and again that we are simply unworthy—unworthy of that big raise, undeserving of a healthy relationship, unfit for the compliment on our new outfit.
As a result of these feelings of inadequacy, we feel shameful. We live our lives in a cloak of darkness, hesitant of what stepping into the light might mean for us. As humans, we tend to react to these circumstances with one of three responses: addiction, denial, or depression. All three ills flood our lives with negativity, sending us into a downward spiral that plunges us even farther away from the lives we once envisioned for ourselves.
To free ourselves from the shackles of fear, we must accept love back into our lives. In order to do so, we need to acknowledge and believe that we are not meant to live in fear, but to live boldly. When we choose to live boldly, happiness ensues. Marianne Williamson put it best when she said:
“Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us. We ask ourselves, ‘Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, fabulous?’ Actually, who are you not to be?…As we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same. As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others.”
For added motivation, keep in mind that throwing your own inhibitions to the wind will encourage those around you to do the same. The process of unlearning fear, putting an end to our feelings of shame, and restoring our hearts with love is not an easy one, but it is worth every arduous step of the journey.